I have cups. I have a table. Oil. I read and meticulously recreated the instructions for movements in my head. I’m going. There’s the first client eager for a Chinese cupping massage. Calf. Thigh from the back, thigh from the front.
-Please lie on your stomach.
I tuck the top part of the towel behind the disposable briefs. I expose the buttock. I spread the oil. I massage. I adjust the towel so it doesn’t reveal the intergluteal cleft. Buttock. I apply the cup and move it across the skin. The towel rolls up. It’s about to reveal something. I secure it. I wipe the sweat from my forehead. Buttock. Deep breath. I massage. Buttock. What a shape… Ideal… Return. Breath. What’s happening? I massage… A drop of sweat falls from my forehead. I hold my breath. Phew…! It fell on the towel. I wipe my forehead. Breath. Buttock, buttock… Return! I massage…
Eclipse of the Mind
During massage training, especially one where nudity appears, which in our part of the world is not something everyday, quite the opposite, and evokes various emotions, unexpectedly difficult situations can occur. The sight of exposed body parts, which are usually covered, and then working with them often requires breaking through, entering the experience. This can trigger various reactions, including those we do not even expect. However, without attempting, we cannot predict if we are able to handle it.
Although those who decide to learn tantric massage have awareness, life maturity, or readiness to undertake learning, they often do not fully know what awaits them. When attentive touch joins nudity and at the same time sexual energy appears, there are moments when the people giving the massage drift away. I mean the effect of freezing, being sucked in by the energy, losing consciousness or presence in the “here and now.” This can be observed especially in people who learn tantric massage and those with little practice in it. When the phenomenon of losing consciousness occurs, the risk of transgressions increases. A frozen masseur is not aware of what they are doing. When the massage recipient catches this event and marks boundaries by stating the fact of transgression, they are often surprised and sometimes offended by this fact, as they had no intention of transgressing. Their action in absence results from an overload of sensations, an overflow of energy, its frequency flowing through their body, which is a new situation for them requiring time and practice.
An additional obstacle is the relatively low level of general societal sexual awareness, resulting from a lack of education, narrowing it down to procreation and bedroom fun. Trivializing its multi-level role of impact.
The Role of Education
Helpful in these situations is education in the field of touch practices in couples focused on maintaining presence and mindfulness, meditations, breathing exercises, or the practice of tantric massage itself, which for people not planning to engage in it professionally can serve as an asset in interpersonal or intimate communication. This can introduce and develop new qualities into relationships experiencing stagnation or functioning in misunderstandings.
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