We walk along a stony, winding path running along the steep edge of the Adriatic. The omnipresent sounds of cicadas, the scent of pines, and the September sun – this is my paradise.
- There’s no one here. Do you think I could take off my bra?
- Sure… …uh, put on the bra. There are some people on the beach.
- Do you see what I see?
- They are naked…
- What do we do? Do we go to them?
- We just need to undress…
- Let’s go.
Nudist Beach
We sat at the edge of the beach. We pretend it’s not our first time. My heart is pounding like crazy. I can’t remember the last time it took me so long to take off my swim trunks. We exchanged a few welcoming glances. Good morning, it’s so beautiful here… We sit… Head turned towards the sea, but eyes looking at everyone and each one individually. And they lie, sleep, read books, talk, swim… tall, short, wide, narrow, more or less tanned, with scars, sagging skin, freckles, without makeup, shaved, hairy… all as they were created enjoying the benefits of the sun and nudity. There’s nothing extraordinary for them about being without clothes.
A Step Towards Change
Time passes… Time for a swim. I enter the water as if stepping onto a stage and forgetting my lines. I barely avoid the sea urchins. I feel the judging gaze of the audience on me. I look at the beach. No one is watching. I speed up. A few more steps and… I lift my feet off the ground… I swim and in an instant, everything changes. What was hindering me until now disappears… I swim. The water embraces me. I feel it everywhere, especially where it hadn’t reached before because of the trunks. It’s extraordinarily and unusually light, as if a bird started to fly. Everything suddenly became simple. It’s just swim trunks, but that pressing elastic, that inseparable material that hindered the flow of oxygen, irritated sensory receptors, unnaturally increased temperature, and disrupted the flow of energy. And one might think that in a bathtub you can feel the same, but nothing could be further from the truth. Here is more space. Here are others naked like me… free, joyful, liberated.
This experience showed me that a nudist beach is certainly not a nightclub, that one can have a completely different attitude towards nudity, and that nudity in tantric massage is not the same nudity as in a sexual act.
What is Nudity in Tantric Massage?
What is nudity in tantric massage? It is the courage to shed clothes. Nudity, in which we learn to accept our body in the form it currently is. A process that facilitates acknowledging it to oneself, the person conducting the session, and others. A way to say to the body: “yes, this is me”. Giving oneself a chance to look at it anew, to change the current perception of the body, resulting from fashion, media beauty standards, social arrangements, and family programs. An opportunity to say “enough” to negative associations. Shedding the shackles of the program: “I am too this, that, and the other…”. Freedom…
Bodily nudity in tantric massage is enveloped, honored, and sanctified, allowing us to abandon fears of judgment and let go. We can be honest with ourselves, we can stand in the courage to admit to everything human: to weaknesses, embarrassing preferences, wounds, the role of the executioner and victim, entanglements, stumbles and failures, falls and rises, views and emotions.
In nudity, we have no way out, we cannot hide anything from others and ourselves. We can give ourselves the right to emotions, to physiological reflexes (e.g., erection or orgasm – if they occur, which is not the goal), to unrestrained breathing, to expressing emotions using voice, to everything that shapes our nature.
Mindfulness and Openness in Tantric Massage
An important aspect of working with nudity during a session of tantric massage is paying special attention to maintaining mindfulness in this openness, to stay in contact with oneself, to not overuse oneself, to be able to fully consciously define physical boundaries before the massage and give oneself the right to possibly narrow, not expand, physical boundaries during the session. This right to define boundaries builds self-confidence and inner strength, allowing the possibility of getting rid of the fear of crossing or being exploited.
If we acknowledge and accept all aspects of nudity: physical, mental, and spiritual, we will begin to accept them until at some point we notice that everything that embarrassed us in nudity starts to disappear, that everything transforms into pure love for ourselves and others.
Do you step onto the stage or the nudist beach? The decision is yours.
I invite you to a tantric massage.
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